Items:

The following statements inquire about your thoughts and feelings in a variety of situations occurring in your relationship with your partner. For each item, indicate how well it describes you by circling the appropriate number.

Empathic Concern scale

1. I often have tender, concerned feelings for my partner when he/she is less fortunate than me.
2. Sometimes I don't feel very sorry for my partner when he/she is having problems.*
3. When I see my partner being taken advantage of, I feel kind of protective towards him/her.
4. My partner's misfortunes do not usually disturb me a great deal.*
5. When I see my partner being treated unfairly, I sometimes don't feel very much pity for him/her.*
6. I am often quite touched by things I see happen in my relationship.
7. In my relationship with my partner, I would describe myself as a pretty soft-hearted person.

Perspective Taking scale

8. I try to look at my partner's side of a disagreement before I made a decision.
9. I sometimes try to understand my partner better by imagining how things look from his/her perspective.
10. If I'm sure I'm right about something, I don't waste much time listening to my partner's arguments.*
11. In my relationship, I believe that there are two sides to every question and try to look at them both.
12. When I'm upset at my partner, I usually try to "put myself in his/her shoes" for a while.
13. Before criticizing my partner, I try to imagine how I would feel if I were in his/her place.

Response Options:
5-point Likert scale
Does not describe me well - 0
Describes me very well - 4

*Items are reverse scored